No one likes people seeing our mistakes. It’s embarrassing, right?
And although you KNOW making mistakes is an important part of the learning process, you would still prefer not to do it in public.
So here’s what happened when I managed to make an embarrassing mistake in public a couple of weeks ago. It’s quite funny, so I hope you laugh!
And I also talk with therapist Tracy Clark about how a simple typo changed her life.
Here’s what happened...
What happened when I made an embarrassing mistake in public
A couple of weeks ago, I scheduled the podcast as usual.
The morning it was published, I woke up to a message from a lovely listener saying:
‘I’m just listening to your podcast and I think there’s something wrong with it - it doesn't have the intro music, and you have left some mistakes in’
And I felt a little like a cartoon character thats had a piano dropped on them from 10 floors up.
Yup, I’d managed to publish the unedited version.
The one with my mistakes, the one with me swearing, the one with me frustrated at saying something several times over because I keep stumbling over my words.
Basically, the one that doesn't have my errors - and swearing - skilfully removed by my editor, Phil.
So thank you so much for letting me know. And the few people that contacted me to let me know. I’d like to take the opportunity to say a massive thank you for having my back.
I took a deep breath and started listening to the episode. Tell me, have you ever been equally horrified, embarrassed and amused at the same time?
Every time I heard a mistake or I swore, I simultaneously died a little bit inside while just laughing my little head off - because ultimately, it was very funny!
So after a panic, I worked out how to correct it and changed it. Phew.
What happened after I realised my mistake?
But what happened then was interesting.
I shared in the Grow Your Private Practice members community what had happened, and as well as people suggesting I do a bloopers reel, I got these comments:
"Thank you for this... you make everything seem better and possible with your honesty. Very grateful to have you... you make me braver"
"I absolutely loved it, it gave me a really good laugh as well as the wonderful lessons in it. It also helped me realise what goes into a polished performance. Thanks"
"Thanks for sharing and showing that we can all make mistakes. It's how we react to them that matters"
So sharing my mistake helped someone to feel braver, and more able to step out of their comfort zone. That's a pretty cool outcome!
When we see people online, sometimes we forget they are human and make mistakes, just like everyone else. And we put ourselves under pressure to be the polished version we see, which isn't even real.
I also shared what had happened in my weekly email, and as a result I received lots of really supportive emails - again, thank you if that was you.
And it seems that my making a mistake reminded people that mistakes aren't the end of the world and that its ok to be human.
How a mistake improved Tracys business
This mistake reminded me of a situation with Tracy Clark, a Grow Your Private Practice member where a simple error led to a really positive outcome.
We jumped on a call and she very kindly let me record our conversation, so take a listen…
And if you just want to hear the conversation with Tracy, skip to 5 mins 45 secs in.
The positive side of making mistakes
So that typo and unfortunate event actually lead Tracy to feel empowered and changing her business in order to work with her passion.
How cool is that?
So what on the face of it appears like an embarrassing mistake can actually be really positive. As Tracy says, just press pause.
Thank you so much for sharing that Tracy, because I’m sure your words will resonate with so many xx
Use mistakes as powerful learning events
I so often see people:
- Paralysed by fear, which stops them from moving forward.
- Paralysed by perfectionism, which stops them from moving forward.
- Paralysed by something else, which it stops them from moving forward.
But the truth is, you WILL make mistakes. Everyone does. It’s part of being human.
And the world doesn’t stop turning when you do.
I was embarrassed and wish it hadn't happened, but nothing bad happened.
And it gave people a really good laugh, and I hope if you heard it, it made you laugh too.
So look, do your best, and learn to roll with the punches because something positive could come from it.
Use the mistake as a valuable learning event.
And if you’d like to have a community of peers cheerleading for you, come and join the Grow Your Private Practice membership and see what a difference it makes for you.
Keep going, keep learning, keep making mistakes and remember, you are human first, counsellor second.
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